Setting Boundaries When 97% of Your Viewers Are Gay

Let's be real: You're a straight guy performing for gay men. That's going to create some boundary issues. Here's how to handle them without losing money or your mind.

My Hard Boundaries (That Still Make Me $6K/Month)

Here's what I DON'T do, ever:

• Anything with my ass (no fingers, no toys, nothing)
• Gay roleplay (I don't pretend to be into dudes)
• Meet-ups (it's illegal and dangerous)
• Custom videos with names/faces
• Anything that could identify me (tattoo shots, local references)

Still making bank. Still have regulars. Still straight.

The Requests You'll Get Daily

Here's what they'll ask for and how to handle it:

How to Say No Without Losing Viewers

The key is being firm but friendly. Here are scripts that work:

The Boundary Creep Problem

It starts small. "Just show your feet." Then "Just turn around." Then "Just spread a little." Before you know it, you're doing shit you swore you'd never do.

How to prevent boundary creep:

1. Write down your hard limits before you start
2. Review them weekly
3. Never negotiate them when you're horny or desperate for money
4. If you change a boundary, wait 24 hours before implementing
5. Remember: You can always do MORE later, but you can't undo what you've done

The Money vs. Comfort Calculation

Someone offers $200 to do something you're not comfortable with. Here's the math:

• $200 today
• Feeling shit about yourself: Priceless
• Losing regular viewers who respected your boundaries: -$1000s
• Setting precedent that you'll do anything for money: -Career

Short-term gain, long-term loss. Every time.

Building a Following That Respects Boundaries

The secret: Be clear from day one. Put it in your bio:

The guys who stick around will respect your limits. The ones who don't weren't going to tip anyway.

When They Push (And They Will)

Some viewers will test you constantly. They get off on pushing straight guys' boundaries. Here's how to handle it:

1. First time: Polite redirect
2. Second time: Firm no with warning
3. Third time: Ban them

Yes, ban paying customers. Your mental health is worth more than their tokens.

The Surprising Truth About Boundaries

Viewers actually respect boundaries MORE than desperation. A straight guy with firm limits is more attractive than one who'll do anything for $5.

My income by month:

• Month 1 (no boundaries): $1,100
• Month 2 (weak boundaries): $2,200
• Month 3 (firm boundaries): $4,200
• Month 6 (known for boundaries): $6,500

The clearer my boundaries, the more I made. Coincidence? Fuck no.

Boundaries for Different Situations

In Public Chat:

• No free shows
• No explicit talk without tips
• No responding to demands
• Keep it playful, not pornographic

In Private Shows:

• Agree on activities BEFORE starting
• No surprises mid-show
• End show if boundaries pushed
• Block repeat offenders

In DMs/Messages:

• No personal info exchange
• No free sexting
• No picture exchanges
• Keep it professional

The Mental Game

You're not gay for having gay viewers. You're not less straight for taking their money. You're an entertainer. Period.

Think of it like this:

• Actors kiss people they're not attracted to
• Wrestlers pretend to fight
• Strippers dance for people they'd never date
• You perform for people you're not into

It's a job. Treat it like one.

Red Flags to Ban Immediately

• Asking for underage roleplay (report them too)
• Requesting real-world meetups
• Trying to find your real identity
• Threatening to out you
• Demanding free shows
• Being abusive when told no

Your room, your rules. Use that ban button liberally.

The Bottom Line

You can make serious money camming without compromising yourself. I make $6K+/month and I've never:

• Done anything I regret
• Crossed my hard boundaries
• Felt "less straight"
• Lost respect for myself

Set your boundaries. Stick to them. Make bank anyway.

The viewers who matter will respect you more for it. The ones who don't? Fuck 'em. There's always another viewer with tokens who respects what you're about.